I am just the one who cleans his clothes and makes his dinner. I feel dead inside. I very much resent this. Unhappily married men often say they feel as though their wives are never satisfied with anything they do, said Kurt Smith, a Northern California-based marriage and family therapist who specializes in counseling for men. Men rarely have any idea of how to show affection or share intimacy. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now. We never go on a date. He would rather do nothing than risk disappointing me. And what about the husband do does none of these things. Some of the best gifts I received in the beginning of our marriage cost him nothing, but they were always my favorite because it showed he cared about me and spent time thinking about me. It tickles me to death when my husband buys me something, but I don't expect any material things from him. He has no idea what to do. For me, birthdays are a BIG deal. Or even to celebrate if one of us passed an exam. It was the way he was raised. Many partners buy and wrap their own Christmas gifts every year with their spouses taking credit as if … Love Cards on Holidays, but Never Anything Else. In other words, your partner never asks for your help or expects you to do anything for the relationship. My husband never does anything like this. This isn’t new – he’s always been like this. Yes, I still feel a twinge of sadness when Valentine’s Day, my birthday, Mother’s Day, and Christmas come and go gift-free. Gets pretty crappy. If I never get anything else from my husband, that is fine with me. my husband never comforts me when i feel sad nor does he ever apologize when he’s done something wrong on his end. Don't think your heavy sighs and the comments made under your breath are going unnoticed. Possibly. So, really to him birthdays are not a big deal. But he doesn’t get that there is truly a feeling person underneath. My husband isn't too great with birthdays. Because God has blessed me beyond measure with a man like him. Says he will refuse to sign anything. August 28, 2016 at 2:47 am ... feel almost sick to my stomach as i am now realizing that i married a narcissist who also has anger issues as well. I have to actively resist the urge to compare “my husband” to “her husband” as the photos go live on Facebook and Twitter. He would maybe get a cake with family growing up. I have a lot of anger about it. Prior to this he was an amazing giver. 1. Birthdays are just another day. I love having parties and love to do something special. What if your husband didn't get you anything for Christmas, could that be a sign your husband doesn't love you? 37 years married in October 2017. But, it's hard for my husband. Reply. My husband of 14 years never gives me compliments. I honestly never even expect him to spend money. Maybe a couple of times a year he’ll say, “You look nice” but that’s it. Linda says. 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